Why You Should Stop Feeling Entitled as a Single Mom

So what does it mean to feel entitled as a single mom? It means that you are viewing yourself in a more favorable light than other people. You believe that your needs matter more than others and that the world should be catering to you. This is not healthy for anyone, but especially not for parents who have children relying on them. But why is it so wrong for a single mother to feel entitled? Here’s a few reasons why you should stop feeling entitled as a single mom.

1. You are not asking for more than you are worth

“Can I get a bigger welfare check?” “I deserve to be able to stay home.” “My child deserves the best of everything.” Every one of these statements is pandering for something you do not fundamentally deserve – they are examples of entitlement thinking. If someone says you deserve something, ask yourself how hard you’ve worked for it. If someone says, you need to be compensated more than what you currently are, take a look at your background and work ethic, and then see if that’s true. Is he talking about working moms? He just said we don’t deserve things. I can’t tell if this is a satire or not…You are out of line with your requests, and your child does need to learn that you may work hard, but there’s no guarantee someone else will provide them the lifestyle they desire (or even have at all). They are going to have to do some soul searching themselves and learn to appreciate what they have.

2. Your entitlement mentality takes value away from people who deserve it

There are plenty of women out there who have legitimately worked hard, done the right thing, and are still struggling while you sit back on your ass, expecting everything handed to you on a silver platter. Do you think that makes your struggle worthless? It worsens your carefree approach to life, and refusal to work hard for a better situation discredits those who have done everything right. Normally the writer of an article would put themselves second, but they seem to be putting themselves first in this one.

3. You are discouraging people from making sacrifices for their children

The people being punished by your entitlement mentality are not just you – it’s also the person working hard to provide for your child, who has committed to them and doesn’t have anyone to fall back on. That person has made sacrifices to ensure your child is brought up with everything they need – shouldn’t you be encouraging them rather than denigrating their efforts? No, it would help if you were encouraging people to continue making sacrifices for their children. If someone has made sacrifices, that means they care about the child.

4. You are discouraging people from getting married in general

Where do you think your entitlement mentality came from? It came from somewhere – and more often than not, it comes from the fact that you think your situation is unique rather than learning how to cope with it. But what message are you sending out to society as a whole? Creating a family will be a financial nightmare, so don’t even bother trying – and if you do try, one of you will have to stay at home. I don’t know if he’s talking about procreation or marriage, but I agree with the message regardless of which one it is.

5. You are reinforcing the idea that people should accept whatever they’re given rather than trying to improve their situation

Your insistence that you should be rewarded for doing nothing is not just insulting – it’s harming society as a whole. You are displacing the blame for your failures onto other people instead of realizing that you should have done better – and this is part of why our generation has entitlement issues. It’s not your fault, and it’s everyone else’s! *eye roll*. Conversely, if you say no to people who say you deserve a reward for doing nothing, that’s a moment of self-awareness and good decision-making. It means you’re not going to give in because the people around you think you want something – it means your child will have a strong role model who won’t take the easy road every time it appears. Yes! It would be best if you stood up for yourself and your child.

6. You don’t need a man to provide for you or your kid

The author is not a single mom, but they’re assuming what single moms think… Unless they’ve been one once? Maybe they’re just using some creative writing skills here. Not all single moms are looking for a man to provide things. Some of them want their child to grow up knowing that mom doesn’t need anyone else, which is what this section seems like it’s trying to say even though the first sentence says otherwise.

7. Single moms don’t need men, period

Many single moms out there don’t have men for reasons beyond their control – due to circumstances, and they cannot have a man in their lives. But being unable to get a guy is not the same as wanting one or needing one – some women are perfectly happy without any help from anyone else. Just because someone doesn’t want a relationship with another person of the opposite gender doesn’t mean they’re unhappy.

7. It’s demeaning to men in general

The idea that you deserve something for doing nothing is, again, insulting to the people around you – especially if it’s a man who is providing for you or your child. Who are you to assume he wants to help without getting anything in return? What’s in it for him?

Yes. MIf, a man, wants to do anything for a woman, there have better be something in it for HIM other than sex! en should not be doing things out of the kindness of their heart when they know that a woman is going to financially reward them simply because he helped her or helped raise her child(ren).

8. It encourages fatherlessness

This section is iffy… I don’t think anyone should be demeaning fathers necessarily – but not having a father figure around can lead to some negative outcomes, depending on how involved he was/is with the child(ren). The last sentence of this subheading doesn’t make sense, though.

9. It affects women’s choices

You are setting a poor example for young girls who may see you accepting whatever is offered to you and not doing anything in return. They’ll then think they can get things without putting any effort into them – just like you’re doing with your male companions. This eventually leads to people becoming more self-centered and selfish.

Ways on how to overcome the mindset of entitlement.

It is not easy being a single mom, but it does get easier. Here are some tips to help you cope with the difficulties of motherhood on your own.

1. Don’t complain about every little thing: single mothers aren’t perfect, not even close. Moms need to focus less on everything that has gone wrong and more on what they can do to make it right.

2. Don’t brood over single mother stereotypes: single mothers are so much more than the stereotype that society has put upon them, don’t let it bog you down. Show people your worth!

3. Take responsibility to stop making excuses for yourself: single mothers have an excuse for everything. In a single mom’s mind, it’s always somebody else’s fault or their responsibility to clean up that single mother’s mess. Regardless of the single mother’s situation, there is always something that she can take ownership of and improve upon herself.

4. Don’t get upset when your children want time with their other parent: single mothers are single for a reason. Most single moms want time with their children without their baby’s dad there. Don’t let it bother you if your child wants to spend time with their other parent unless, of course, the single mother has given good reasons not to let them go.

5. Be proactive in finding out how you can be part of your children’s lives: single mothers can’t let the single mother stereotype take over their lives, sit at home doing nothing, find out what you can do to be part of your child or children’s life.

Conclusion:

As a single mom, there is no doubt that you have been faced with difficult situations. You need to remember that it’s not your fault, and no one deserves to feel as if they are entitled in your situation. You may be feeling this way because of the many challenges associated with being a single parent but don’t let those feelings stop you from doing what needs to be done. While things will never go back to exactly how they were before, it doesn’t mean you can’t make progress towards a better future for yourself or your child(ren. Despite the many challenges of being a single mom, it is possible to be happy and successful in life. You have to learn how to develop your sense of empowerment by setting boundaries for yourself and others around you and stop feeling entitled as a single mom!